If a player and his family are fortunate enough to be asked by a
college coach for an "in home" visit it is at first flattering and
exciting. Then it turns into confusion and questions.
The first thing that comes to mind are the unimportant items; "we
need to make sure the grass is mowed", "what will we serve for
refreshments?", "should we get the carpet cleaned?", etc. You get
The truth is that none of the above items are as important as
preparing a list of questions, for the coach. This should be done as
a family. Don't trust a 17 or 18 year old kid to make a list of
First of all realize that the coach is very interested in your son
if he is asking to make an "in home" visit. Your home is a good place
for the meeting; it will offer your son the comfort of familiar
surroundings. He will feel more at ease. Don't move the meeting to
a local restaurant or the coach's office at the high school.
Restaurants tend to be noisy and you will feel rushed. The high
school coach's office (or other school location) is not a comfortable
location for most players, and usually unfamiliar territory for Mom
The following is a list of ideas and suggestions for questions;
Don't be afraid to ask lots of questions. This will show the coach
that your family is truly interested in his program.
Ask for the coaches email address. You will undoubtedly think of
other questions - this is an easy way to ask them. Coaches can only
call once a week (by telephone) but they can email a player as often
as they want. Offer the coach an email address that he can use to
contact your son.
If your son is genuinely interested in the coach's school ask about
an "official visit". If the coach is hesitant to offer one it may be
an indication of his true interest in your son. It may also be an
indication that he is trying to get your son "for a reduced price".
Don't be offended by this, it is the nature of the college recruiting
game. NCAA schools are limited in the number of official visits that
they can provide.
Finally the coach may make an offer to your son during the "in home"
visit, conversely he may not. Don't read too much into the process
either way. If an offer is made it is usually a good idea to ask for
a short period of time to "talk it over". Don't wait too long or the
coach may go to the next player on his list. Two (2) weeks is usually
an acceptable period of time.
Next Up -- What makes up
a "Good Offer?"